I switch tenses when I write

Allow me to indulge in my latest obsession for a moment: The Bachelorette

I began this season as a big fan of DeAnna. She was one of the finalists in the runnings for the heart of Brad, a previous Bachelor. She seemed the obvious choice, but was turned down by The Bachelor along with her competitor. From the episodes I saw, she seemed genuine and fun. I was excited to see her as The Bachelorette with a new chance at love.

DeAnna goes down a notch in my book with every episode. She grills the guys as if it’s a job interview and tells them to ‘open up.’ On tonight’s episode, she was hanging out with one of the guys, Graham, immediately after hanging out with another guy. She practically demanded that he kiss her, and he told her he doesn’t want to be ‘one of a bunch’ and it’s hard for him to know that she’s acting the same with all the other guys. Well, this does not go over so well with DeAnna the Diva. She immediately got all angry and told him that it’s all about her. Later in the episode, the guys tried to make a fun little barbecue and invite her to it. She seemed annoyed that the guys were enjoying each other’s company instead of fawning over her completely. She attempted to regain the spotlight with her feminine wiles. Can you roll up my sleeves for me? When this tactic failed to garner her the attention she desired, she turned to yelling. One of the guys kinda had a bad attitude at the barbecue, and she took it out on all of them. She yelled that she knew it was hard for, but they were going to have to deal with it, since the show was about her straightening out her own feelings (implying that theirs didn’t matter).

What a self-centered drama queen. I am no longer routing for my favorite men (Jesse, Graham, and Jason) to stay in the runnings, because they could do better. Get out while you can, guys.

This leads me to wonder how 25 men could believe that they are truly in love with one woman - especially a woman who I see as obnoxious. Is it just that she’s attractive, or is it that they’re in this artificial reality where “falling in love” is the best way to occupy your time? Would they be this crazy about her if she had just sat next to them in Psych 100 back in college (for example)? How much does your environment affect your feelings for someone? How much do our own surroundings affect how we feel about people every day without us even realizing it?

Just pondering.